“Money is nice…But who do you spend it with?” the lady said to me.
The myth of the “gold digger” is firmly planted in our masculine psyches as we have been warned by our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and—yes—the media, that we should be on the look-out for bad women only seeking riches and ruin our lives in their frenzied search.
Aside from some outliers, most women view money differently than men. They like to watch a good spectacle and share impressions with friends; they like to travel to learn more. And a comfortable lifestyle for their loved ones.
Researchers of University of California-Riverside and the University of Cambridge found that only the first 1,000 Pounds deposited in the accounts of 585 UK bank clients were much more important for their happiness than the next 9,000 pounds they had.
If men are biologically wired to seek attractive women that can bear them healthy offspring, women are inclined to choose men that can offer security. However the new paradigm of an independent, empowered feminine gender has markedly changed the expectations of both sexes in the courting and mating habits of our modern times.
Financially secure, work enlightened and socially empowered women want to share their successes with an affectionate, understanding lifetime partner. They are struggling to share their successes “with” someone, not “without.”
Dr. Kate Levinson, psychotherapist and author, says the issues of financial control and responsibility have strong emotional undertones for women. She tells them to come to terms with their feelings about being “rich” or “poor” and explore their “inner money life” in order to obtain positive outcomes.
Last week I visited an old friend and we sat down to watch a basketball game. Half an hour later his wife stepped in and planted herself right smack in front of the TV set. -“Listen, with my new promotion , I’ll earn more than you do…Got any problems?” -“Of course not, dear,” he said. “Now please step aside and bring us a cold beer, eh?”
What do you want me to say? Those quaint, sexist habits die a very slow death indeed.
What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.