Nora (looking at her watch). It is not so very late. Sit down here, Torvald. You and I have much to say about one another. (She sits down at one end of the table)
Helmer. Nora-what is this? –This cold, set face?
Nora. Sit down. It will take some time; I have a lot to talk over with you.
“A Doll’s House” Henrik Ibsen.
Finally Nora summoned the spiritual and physical strength to confront her husband about their failed eight-years marriage and demand a way out. She complained that her father treated her as his doll-child and when she got married he just transferred the possession of his doll from his hands to her husband’s.
One of the commonest feminine complaints against men is that they view and treat women as mere objects to please their desires—sexual, gastronomic, etc. The litany of complaints expressed by women against the “significant other” in modern medical offices attests to their resilient emotional frustration.
Jessica Valenti, a US-based reporter for “The Guardian”, said in her memoir that women have to manage the socially ingrained expectation they exist first and foremost to satisfy the male desires in all their myriad forms. Only when those are fulfilled, they can expect to be considered as human beings.
Even though she excelled at becoming “the best sex object ever”, she feels tired of the serial disappointments with men and the travails of beauty care. She denounces the futility of the popular feminism that uses humor to undo the grinding down of sexism in modern women’s lives. It seems that she has no hope to get her due respect from men.
Jennifer Weiner said that even though the social media has been pivotal to allow the multiple expressions of millions of women worldwide it has also had the collateral effect of pressuring them into “looking good” at all times.
Being out in public means “being looked at, and possibly photographed, in a way that men still are not, and maybe will never be.” She has no hope too…What’s a woman to do?
I wonder…If modern women are so upset about the “objectification” of their images, why do they spend so much time and money in the beautification process? It beggars belief.
If you don’t have any patience left for the triad of feminine grooming (prune, polish and police) just roam around the house with a trendily defiant Chewbacca look. We’re so confident (wink-wink) that your “significant other” will back your rebellion all the way…
What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.