. -“Doctor…I’m desperate… My husband is dating a travesti…. Imagine!”
Marilyn X. is an attractive, middle-aged lady of Miami who, by virtue of her wits and wealth, is involved in many real estate ventures and charity works. I have known her and also Orlando, her husband, for many years and they occasionally show up in my office to share a cup of coffee and conversation. When she came into my office a few days ago she had the typical crepuscular face, evasive looks and parsimonious movements of a woman suffering from an emotional frustration. What could possibly be wrong with her?
Suddenly welling up, she blurted those words out.She had suspicions that he was having an extramarital affair because all of a sudden their relatively normal marital friction suddenly ended one day. He was in a sunny mood in the morning, warmly kissed her goodbye after breakfast and did not show up again until the wee hours of the next morning. She felt that something was afoot. She never imagined who “that” truly was.
Dr. Walter Ghedin, psychiatrist and sexologist, affirmed that, contrary to the popular belief that men seeking a trans girl are closeted homosexuals, they are heterosexuals strongly attracted to their feminine bodies and sensuality. They usually reject any sign of masculinity in their voices and demeanor; however the presence of a vestigial male sexual organ might excite them.
Men, who are in a formal couple relationship and are attracted to a trans girl, are in a terrible social bind, much worse than if their lovers were women. They are trapped by social conventions (reinforced by religious doctrines) that demand that the heterosexual men should only be attracted to women. How do they “launder” their “forbidden” relationship without suffering the social opprobrium?
A few days after his wife’s visit, Orlando came to see me. He asked me point blank:
-“She was here, wasn’t she?” he asked. “Must have told you all about Irene…”
-“You know I can’t discuss what she said,” I replied, “besides, it’s your life!”
-“Well, let me tell you…Instead of whining about her problems, like my wife does, Irene always listens to mine and supports me fully…When I’m watching a Dolphins game, she doesn’t plant herself smack right in front of the TV set to give me a tirade like my wife does…She brings me a cold Beck’s and snuggles by my side in the sofa to watch it together…How can you beat that, eh? Tell me, Doctor!”
What do you want me to say? When a guy has such strong feelings for his game and beer…
What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.