-“Doctor, before serving a dish to a client, I’ve got to try it myself.”
Tanya X. is the feisty, lesbian sous-chef of a trendy restò in the BRSF that was half-jokingly telling me why, even though she had a steady partner, she masturbated on a regular basis. There are statistics about the high prevalence of that practice in both the young and adult populations of the USA but it still remains a “taboo subject” in the media and in the civic discourse. It’s like the mentally or physically handicapped child in the families of yore. Everybody knew about his existence but nobody noticed him.
That old practice has been frowned upon by religious and civic authorities as a vain exercise for the loafers who are only bent on their narcissistic enjoyment. In spite of that concerted opposition, it is coming out of the closet for all sexual preferences.
Yvonne Fulbright, sexologist and relationship expert, says that “ how to stimulate one’s hot spots, whether your own or your lover’s, can be a piece of cake—that is once you know the recipe. The secret to becoming a rave-inspiring ‘masterchef’ in the bedroom is knowing when (and how) to throw in a dash of this or a pinch of that, turn up the heat, let things simmer a bit, or even mix up the ingredients. It’s also important to know why the right blend makes things so sweet.” There’s a link between cooking and good sex.
In my novel, Emily, the heroine, and Juliet, her mentor, share this dialogue:
-“Oh…Cut the academic lesson short…What should I do?”
-“When was the last time that you connected with your clitoris?”
-“Put a mirror down there and start chatting with your best buddy—”
-“How are you gonna guide your partner if you don’t learn the ropes first? By gently caressing it you’ll find out the right amount of pressure you like.”
-“I feel shame—“
-“Don’t kowtow to the patriarchal society’s guilt complexes…Fantasize!”
As to the widespread belief that Onanism damages your memory, there is a study by…Mmm…Hey, what was the name of that scientist again?
What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.