–“Where are all the men?” Emily asked. “Where are they hiding?”
-“Men? What men?” Annie retorted.
-“Nice single guys that like the company of women—that’s who.”
Emily grabbed her I-phone to scroll through her latest social feeds.
She shoved the apparatus into Annie’s face, practically fogging the screen.
-“Tell me the truth—is she really prettier than me, eh?”
-“Gosh… Still following him?”
-“Don’t want him to think that he still matters so—“
-“But he does… Gimme that!” said Annie, grabbing Emily’s phone.
Annie clicked “unfollow’ and then “unfriend” in Emily’s Facebook page.
-“There you are…End of story.” Annie said, handing her the phone back.
-“Can still follow him in Twitter—“
-“Whatever—what you’re looking for does not fit in a tart tweet.”
In my novel, Emily, the main character, shares with her deep frustration with Annie, her cousin and confidante: she cannot find a good man to commit. It’s a very common complaint of modern women who, in spite of having earned a well-deserved economic emancipation and social recognition, are unable to translate that personal success in their amorous relationships. They had exhilarating romances, with plentiful sex included, with gorgeous men; but when they tried to upgrade their relationship, men invariably skedaddled.
There is another perspective on this issue. An article in the New York Times describes the rebellion of some men working in Silicon Valley’s high-tech industries against what they consider blatant discrimination and harassment.
Paradoxically enough it is not a movement of old-timers bent on conserving the socio-economic status quo that relegated women to labor positions of lesser recognition and pay for generations. They are mostly young men. They are congregating in chat rooms, message boards, Facebook pages, to complain about the excesses of the “politically correct” attitudes of the Human Resources departments in the still male-dominated tech industry. They are afraid to openly challenge them but their subterranean rebellion is gaining traction, forcing the administrators and investors to pay attention.
There are radical voices that call for outright secession. The MGTOW. To the perennial feminine question of” where are all the good men”, they reply: “back in your 20s, where you left them.” It’s a social movement for men only that has been gaining more public profile in spite of women’s anger. According to their web page, they are willing to have relationships with women but they are dead fast opposed to any kind of serious commitment. It is full of horror stories that resemble the tales of escapees from plantations. It unabashedly supports the choice of many men of remaining single forever.
One well educated lady looked at me intensely a few days ago and told me:
-“Doctor…Are you a secret member of the MGTOW.”
-“No,” I replied. “Why would you say that?”
-“Well, you’ve been separated for years, you like women’s company but live alone…In spite of your charming personality, you stay stubbornly single.”
-“Mmm…You think so?”
What do you want me to say? Some guys might have been engaging in that lifestyle for years without even knowing there were more of them out there.
What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.