-“Doctor…When we make love, it hurts—my husband doesn’t get it.”
Making love is much more than bringing a penis and a vagina together. When we make love in a satisfying steady relationship we are bringing also our socio-cultural baggages with all the connotations of biased perceptions. Modern sexology states that, except for a few clinical conditions, there are no sex pathologies to correct but common complications that need fixing.
These complications can involve the sexual desire, the foreplay, the orgasm and even the presence of pain at the time of penetration or other contact. The common denominator of most sex dysfunctional syndromes is the lack of communication between the partners that impedes to find a proper solution. The two most common sexual dysfunctions in our modern societies are:
1 – Lack of lubrication: this problem is especially annoying as the female experiences severe pain at the time of penetration in a dry receptacle. The use of gels and a laser treatment with the segmented CO2 can alleviate it.
2 – Localized pain during intercourse: this is a common occurrence post-partum as the surgical stitches can alter the anatomy of the vulva and make a re-alignment of the whole cavity. It can also be fixed with laser therapy.
Even though the sensitive terminals in our sexual organs collect the signals, they are ultimately processed in the brain to deliver its final message to us. One of the most common temporary sexual dysfunctions is when a woman has her first child and then has to resume her sexual bond with her partner. In my novel, Emily, the main character, has difficulty making a switch:
“Emily was having trouble managing her body’s mutation from the erotic perspective of a young woman to the nurturing one of a new mother. Her vagina, where her desire resided, had been the transit for a debut in life.
With the passing of time the rhythmic contractions that propelled her son out were losing their edginess and were gaining some kind of musical cadence.
Impregnable. The Janussian auto-antonym for the feminine ethos.
Two women with contraposing perspectives share a single vagina.”
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