Masturbation during Social Isolation – part II

No possibility of any social encounters. Not even the platonic kind. What to do?

After almost two months of Social Distancing and Forced Isolation, we are all fed up. With perturbed nights and never-ending weekends, we might feel entitled to a little fun.

Pour quoi pas? 

For such obvious reasons, people are recurring more often to “the company of one.”  

However, it has always been too difficult to get reliable data about Onanism due to the timidity or hypocrisy of respondents that, even though they practice it in earnest, deny it vehemently in written and oral surveys on this subject. But times are changing…

Under the auspices of the Trojan company—makers of the famous condoms—Dr. Robin Milhausen, a sex investigator of the University of Guelph, conducted a survey with his colleagues to find the incidence and prevalence of Masturbation now. They found that:

a) Men engaged in that practice at least once a week at a rate double than women (65% to 35%) but women reported a pleasurable experience more frequently than men did (38% of women to 29% of men)
b) 43% of women that did it on a regular basis reported that their latest one was more pleasurable, compared to 27% of women that did it occasionally.
c) Men who considered that their last practice was pleasurable were more likely to be more emotionally stable in their couple relationships.
d) 47% of women and 39% of men who liked their latest drill were more likely to say that they were satisfied with their sexual lives.
e) 54% of women used a vibrator to boost pleasure; of those 46% of them said that their latest drill was more pleasurable compared to 35% of those that did not use it.

The Japanese company TENGA—makers of sex toys—conducted surveys worldwide about the frequency of Masturbation to prepare a 2019 Self-Help Pleasure report. In the particular case of the USA, they found the following:

a) Americans ranked fourth in this agitated sport—84% of respondents—behind Germany (89%), the United Kingdom (91%) and the world champion, Spain (93%)
b) The three more common reasons to do it were: sexual satisfaction (31%), reach sexual climax(25%) and relief of stress (21%)
c) Heterosexual and LGBT Americans were more likely to drill on a regular basis—91% and 94% respectively—compared to women (78%)
d) Men are more likely to start at a very young age—13 years old on average—and women usually start several years later.
e) Contrary to men, women find the practice more pleasurable than the real act; 37% of women considered that the solo practice was better than sex, compared to 33% of men.
f) Non-LGBT individuals consider than sex is much more pleasurable.

Dr. Julie Richters, investigator at the University of New South Wales, conducted a survey of almost 20,000 Australians to study their solo practices. They found that:

  1. 72% of men and 42% of women had masturbated in the past year.
  2. Half of the men (51%) and a 24% of the women had done in the past four weeks.
  3. In the past year, two-fifths of respondents—63% of men and 20% of women—browsed some pornography material in various presentations.
  4. 21% of women and 15% of men had used a sex toy.
  5. 19% of men and 15% of women had practiced digital-anal stimulation.
  6. 7% of men and 4% of women had engaged in oral-anal stimulation.
  7. 7-8% played sexual roles or engaged in cross-dressing.

We will prudently give our distinguished readership a few days to digest this data; in a follow-up article, we will discuss the possible benefits of Onanism for all genres.

Stay distant. Stay safe. Stay beautiful.

(This article was based on our upcoming new book Emotional Frustration – the hushed plague)

Stay distant. Stay safe. Stay beautiful.

What do you think? Please tell us.
Don’t leave me alone.


Masturbation during Social Isolation – Part I

The enforced social isolation during the pandemic for millions of people around the globe will exacerbate certain personal and community tensions that have been latent for many decades. One of them is the issue of Onanism which, in spite of being as old as Mankind itself, has taken a new twist due to the cloistering of so many single persons without the possibility of going out to meet a partner. In order to start the much needed and long postponed discussion, we will first transcribe what we already wrote about this issue in our upcoming book “Emotional Frustration – the hushed plague”

-“Doctor…Before serving a dish to a customer, got to try it myself.”

Tanya X. is the feisty, lesbian sous-chef of a posh beach resto that jokingly told us that, despite having a partner, she used “self-stimulation” as an appetizer. There is a high prevalence of masturbation in the USA[i], both amongst the young and adult persons, but it is still considered as a taboo issue in most public forums. Despite a strong social opposition, that practice is slowly “coming out.”

The National Health and Social Life Survey, administered by the University of Chicago, showed that in the 18-60 years old segment, 38% of women and 61% of men said that they had at least one episode the previous year. The masturbation-partnered sex linkage had a bimodal presentation for both genders as it was both a compensation for an unsatisfying sex life and an addition to a satisfying one too.

Yvonne Fulbright, a relationship expert and writer, said: “how to stimulate the ‘hot spots’, whether your own or your lover’s, can be a piece of cake—that is once you know the recipe. The secret to becoming a rave-inspiring ‘masterchef’ in the bedroom is knowing when (and how) to throw in a dash of this or a pinch of that, let the things simmer a bit or even mix up the ingredients. It’s also important to know why the right blend makes things so sweet.” [ii] A personalized cookbook.

Researchers at the Kinsey Institute [iii] interviewed more than a thousand heterosexual Australians about what they usually hide below the bedsheets. The data showed that only 61.6% of women claimed to reach an orgasm during sexual intercourse compared to almost 85.5% of men that claimed they did. Almost 38% of the participating women said that they needed stimulation of the clitoris to reach an orgasm in 75% of the sexual encounters they had had; the investigators  stated that previous clinical studies did not fully address the issue of clitoral stimulation.

Stay distant. Stay safe. Stay beautiful.

(This article is based on our upcoming new book Emotional Frustration – the hushed plague)

What do you think? Please tell us.

Don’t leave me alone.


[i] Das A.“Masturbation in the United States”, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy 2007 Jul-Sep:33(4)301-17.

[ii] Yvonne K. Fulbright, “Touch me there. A hands-on Guide to your Orgasmic Hot Spots”, Hunter House, Kindle edition.